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Carl Jung has said that wisdom is the ability to state the obvious. I would say that wisdom is the ability to see the obvious in ourselves and in our own lives. We should not underestimate the power of self-awareness. If we can master seeing our automatic emotional reactions, we can effortlessly empower our lives by changing them.

It is easy to see emotional patterns in others, but when it comes to ourselves, we can be amazingly blind. A situation arises and our automatic reactions kick in. It’s easy to get stuck in the same patterns because we cannot see ourselves. A mirror works because it displays a separate image. Without a separate image to look at, we cannot see ourselves.

The good news is that our brain is not designed to stay in blind emotional reaction for an extended time. The initial emotional wave overtakes us and lingers until it must ultimately subside. After the initial wave passes, we can begin to analyze the trigger and our personal reaction to it. When we are able to analyze our selves, logic will help us focus on a better course of action. Now that you’re more emotionally detached, watch the situation unfold in your mind, as if it were remade as a comedy. You’re watching the Comedic Remake based on true events. This takes you out of the situation, and removes the serious tone. As you watch this new comedy, focus on your character. How do you add a comedic twist to what upset you? Your lighthearted side wrote your character, so it’s not too much of a stretch to identify with yourself. When you see yourself as your character, you empower that aspect of who you are. Now, when the same type of situation arises in the future, you can think of your sitcom-self, and identify with your more lighthearted reactions. This technique will help separate your emotion from whatever upset you, and will help you see that different reactions produce different outcomes. Use your imagination and have fun with this. It is an easy way to release automatic patterns that might be holding you back. You must decide what your self-defeating patterns are, then use your imagination to change them into empowering patterns. The first step is to lighten up, as described above.

With kind permission of Dr. Moiz Hussain
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An amazing video clip !!!

Posted: April 26, 2010 in Unsorted

An amazing video clip !!!

A Norwegian ad… for what we have no idea. But a bunch of kids weld a loop into a train track:

Seeing is believing !!!

The Rule of Sanity

Posted: April 20, 2010 in Unsorted

It is a hysterical watching how our stock market has been performing for the past over a year and other money market players are going insane every day. Yes, everything has gone out of order and the masks for many ugly faces have been unveiled, but the world has not come to an end. While dinosaurs had no one to rescue them from extinction, the global financial system has world governments leaping to keep it alive and breeding.

So how did everything get out of order? I have lately come to the conclusion that there must be a benchmark to doing everything, a benchmark which I call the “Rule of Sanity”, a benchmark where the standards are levelheaded. For example, you go to work and you get paid. You work harder and smarter and you should get paid more. You would not expect to go to work late every day, spend your hours gazing out of the windows doing nothing and still get a promotion.

But investors, who are no longer investing in stocks, but indeed traded their stocks in the stock market and expected their money to double within three months without making any effort. They would expect to beat the market by taking profit and avoiding losses by exiting at just the right time, while giant world renowned companies like CITIC Pacific and Lehman Brothers had a hard enough time knowing what’s going on in their organizations. Depositors expect a much higher return on TDRs and deposits from their banks with a gig of higher yield. Investors today have bought into extreme greed and have abandoned the rule of sanity – and the people (our so-called brokers and port-folio managers) who were preying on these investors have gone even more insane over the years.

Well, it is time to go back to basics and give your battered portfolio a gentle massage. Good companies are still expected to trade at unbelievable discounts and our portfolio managers are there to spot them. It is also time to take your advisor for hairy crabs (to help boost the economy if you will), and see how you can benefit from the current market with the sort of good quality investments that Warren Buffett wouldn’t mind holding for a lifetime. Revise your investment pattern to a more disciplined and committed one, one with strategy, and one that goes by the rule of sanity.

It is high time we approach positively while looking at the current financial crisis, because life goes on. Unless you are a professional investor or a fund manager whose mandate is to make money responsibly for your clients all day long, then find yourself a trustworthy advisor, stick with a mutually agreeable strategy, and let him do the work for you.

The next time you see something that is too good to be true… it probably is!
Never give up living a life you love, even under these extreme circumstances.

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In 1973 the war between Arabs and Israel was about to start. Meanwhile an American Senator visited Israel on a special mission. He was chief of the Senate Arms Committee. A meeting with Israeli Prime Minister Golda Meir was arranged immediately.

Golda Meir welcomed him into her home, like any common housewife welcoming a family guest. She took him to the kitchen. While seating him at the kitchen dining table, she went over to prepare tea for the guest.

As the water was kept for boiling, she came over and sat on a chair near the dining table. She opened the discussion regarding planes, missiles, and guns. In the course of negotiations, she got the aroma of the brew.

She prepared two cups of tea, and offered one cup to the Senator, and another to an American guard who was standing at the gate. On returning, she came back, continued talking with the Senator. After a discussion they settled the arms deal. In the meantime, she stood up, collected all the cups, and turned to senator and said “I agree to this deal. You can send your secretary to my secretary for written deal”.

It may be remembered that Israel at that time was facing a serious economic crisis, but the huge arms deal was settled by Meir with the greatest of ease in the history of Israel. It was quite astonishing that earlier, the Israeli cabinet had rejected the same deal, because they thought it would be so costly, that the whole nation would have to make do with a single meal a day, for years to come.

Meir knew about their stand, and said, “Your doubt are well founded, but if we win this war, and defeat the Arabs, history will remember us as the victors, and in history, once a community is know as the victor, it forgets how many eggs they ate and how many times they had food. Whether there was jam, honey, butter on the table, and how many holes they had in their shoes. Or whether the sheaths of their swords were new or old! A conqueror is a conqueror.”

Based on Meir’s solid logic, the Israeli cabinet approved the deal. Later it was proved that the decision taken by Meir was right, and the whole world witnessed the Jews knocking on the doors of the Arabs with this artillery. A war took place, and the Arabs faced a shameful defeat at the hands of an old lady.

After a gap of one decade after the war, a reporter of the Washington Post interviewed Meir, asking “Was the logic you had in your mind for the arms was spur of the moment decision or you had had an advance strategy?”

Meir’s reply was very surprising.

She answered, “I got this logic from the prophet (of the Muslims) Muhammad (peace be upon him). When I was a student, my favorite topic was comparative study of religions. Those days I studied the life of Muhammad (PBUH). One author stated that when Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) died, there was not enough money to buy oil for a lamp, his wife (Ayesha Siddiqua [Raziallah-u-ta’ala unha]) mortgaged his battle shield to buy oil, yet there were nine swords hung on the wall of his house.

When I read this account, it occurred to me- how many people in the world would have known about the worst economic condition of Islamic state? But everyone recognizes them as conquerors of half the world. So I decided that I would buy arms at any cost; even if we would have to starve or to live in camps instead of buildings, but we would prove ourselves as the victor”.

Meir revealed this secret, but requested the interviewer to keep it “off the record”, and refrain from publishing it, because if she referred to Prophet Muhammad (P.B.U.H), the Jews would have revolted against her and the Muslim position would have strengthened.

Over the time, world situation changed. Golda Meir died. By this time the interviewer had given up the profession of journalism. Meanwhile another correspondent was busy interviewing 20 famous American journalists. In connection with this, he met the journalist who had interviewed Meir as a representative of the Washington Post.

In this interview, he recounted the story of Meir that drew on the life of Prophet Muhammad (PBUH).

He said he was not ashamed to tell the story. Further, he said, “After this incident I studied the history of Islam, and was astonished to know about the savoir-faire of Arabs. Because I learned that Tariq bin Ziyad conquered Spain through Gibraltar, while more than half his army did not have complete suit of clothes. They subsisted for 72 hours at time on water and dried bread.

It was then that the interviewer agreed with Meir’s view that history counts victory; it does not count the eggs, jams and butter on the table.”

When the interview with Meir was published, the whole world learned of this entire story.

This astonishing incident is history’s wake-up call to the Muslims of the world. It teaches them a lesson; it reveals how 14 centuries ago, a shepherd, clad in a cloak and worn-out shoes became the leader of the world, and conquered four continents.

Could enormous castles, grand palaces, magnificent gardens, splendid clothes, adorned rest places of silk and sleepless, gold silver, boxes, gems and jewels, spread of savory dishes and the jingle of coins save them? The locust-swarm of Tartar forces did not reach the palace of Musta’sim Billah by trampling over Baghdad. What a terrible and astonishing scene it was in the history of Islam, when Musta’sim Billah was bound in chains, standing like a prisoner before Halaku Khan (grandson of Changaiz Khan). And at mealtime, Halaku Khan ate in simple plates, but offered plates of gems and precious metals to Caliph Musta’sim Billah, mocking “Eat from these diamonds, gems, gold and precious metals you have collected!” There stood the Sovereign of Baghdad, helplessness, powerless, lonely, destitute, saying, “How can I eat gold?” Halaku Khan replied, “Then why you have collected all this silver and gold?”

The Muslim, whose religion calls on him to make arms and rear horses, had no reply. Halaku Khan glanced at the palace doors and windows, asking, “Why did you not make iron arrows by melting these iron nets? Why did you collect these diamonds instead of paying money to your soldiers, so they could fight bravely against my forces?”

“It was the will of Allah”, replied the grieved Caliph.

The arrogant Halaku shot back, “Whatever is now going to happen with you is also God’s wish”.

Then Halaku covered Musta’sim Billah in a cloak and crushed him under the hooves of horses, and proceeded to make a graveyard of Baghdad.

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This article was not written by any conservative mullah but those words of Golda Meir are slap on the faces of all enlightened moderates (Muslim Leaders). Despite of having religious differences I salute this strong women as a conqueror of war because we appreciate brave people irrespective of their religion and we always loathe coward, Timid and greedy dogs. Curse on the faces of damn enlightened moderates who have crushed the Muslim youth under the feet of fornication, SMS culture, chatting culture, co-eduction system, women empowerment, mix gatherings, marathons, basant and other evil and filthy activities.

Complete Biography of Golda Meir, 4th Prime Minister of Israel

http://www.who2.com/goldameir.html

This story is about a man who once upon a time was selling hot dogs by the roadside. He was illiterate, so he never read newspapers. He was hard of hearing, so he never listened to the radio. His eyes were weak, so he never watched television. But enthusiastically, he sold lots of hot dogs. He was smart enough to offer some attractive schemes to increase his sales. His sales and profit went up. He ordered more a more raw material and buns and used to sell more. He recruited few more supporting staff to serve more customers. He started offering home deliveries. Eventually he got himself a bigger and better stove. As his business was growing, the son, who had recently graduated from College, joined his father.

Then something strange happened.

The son asked, “Dad, aren’t you aware of the great recession that is coming our way?” The father replied, “No, but tell me about it.” The son said, “The international situation is terrible. The domestic situation is even worse. We should be prepared for the coming bad times.”

The man thought that since his son had been to college, read the papers, listened to the radio and watched TV. He ought to know and his advice should not be taken lightly.

So the next day onwards, the father cut down the his raw material order and buns, took down the colourful signboard, removed all the special schemes he was offering to the customers and was no longer as enthusiastic. He reduced his staff strength by giving lay-off s. Very soon, fewer and fewer people bothered to stop at his hot dog stand. And his sales started coming down rapidly, same is the profit. The father said to his son, “Son, you were right”. “We are in the middle of a recession and crisis. I am glad you warned me ahead of time.”

Moral of The Story: It’s all in your MIND! And we actually FUEL this recession much more than we think.

Courtesy Dr. Sikandar Ali Ph.D

[1] Regular naps prevent old age, especially if you take them while driving.

[2] Having one child makes you a parent; having two you are a referee.

[3] Marriage is a relationship in which one person is always right and the other is the husband.

[4] I believe we should all pay our tax with a smile. I tried – but they wanted cash.

[5] A child’s greatest period of growth is the month after you’ve purchased new school uniforms.

[6] Don’t feel bad. A lot of people have no talent.

[7] Don’t marry the person you want to live with, marry the one you cannot live without, but whatever you do, you’ll regret it later.

[8] You can’t buy love, but you pay heavily for it.

[9] Bad officials are elected by good citizens who do not vote.

[10] Laziness is nothing more than the habit of resting before you get tired.

[11] Marriage is give and take. You’d better give it to her or she’ll take it anyway.

[12] My wife and I always compromise. I admit I’m wrong and she agrees with me.

[13] Those who can’t laugh at themselves leave the job to others.

[14] Ladies first. Pretty ladies sooner.

[15] A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.

[16] You’re getting old when you enjoy remembering things more than doing them.

[17] It doesn’t matter how often a married man changes his job, he still ends up with the same boss.

[18] Real friends are the ones who survive transitions between address books.

[19] Saving is the best thing. Especially , when your parents have done it for you.

[20] Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools talk because they have to say something

[21] They call our language the mother tongue because the father seldom gets to speak!

[22] Man: Is there any way for long life?

Dr: Get married.

Man: Will it help?

Dr: No, but then the thought of long life will never come.

[23] Why do couples hold hands during their wedding?

It’s a formality just like two boxers shaking hands before the fight begins!

[24] Wife: Darling today is our anniversary, what should we do?

Husband: Let us stand in silence for 2 minutes.

[25] It’s funny when people discuss Love Marriage vs Arranged.

It’s like asking someone, if suicide is better or being murdered.

[26] There is only one perfect child in the world and every mother has it.

[27] There is only one perfect wife in the world and every neighbor has it!

Last one: Every eligible bachelor should marry,

because he cannot be happy forever.

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركات

An old man was asked on a TV program, what does Pakistan mean to you? He replied telling a true story. He said “When I was coming to Pakistan, I saw an old man just like me, he was tired, injured and thirsty. He asked has Pakistan arrived, I said ‘Yes’. He took the soil and kissed it. He asked for water. When I brought water, I saw some crows and a dog beside him. When I came near, the old man had died.” The old man interviewed had tears in his eyes then. He said to the interviewer “The eyes who had seen such scenes know what Pakistan means”.

In 1965, a report in New York Times said “The success story of Pakistan, its growth since independence is second only to America in all of the nations in the post WWII era.” In 1965, Pakistan’s exports were more than Indonesia, Maldives, Hong Kong, Singapore, Bhutan and South Korea combined. Experts from South Korea used to come to Pakistan to witness and understand the Green Revolution in Pakistan so that they can replicate this in their region. Wow.

In 1970s, Pakistan’s share of international textile trade was 11%. Pakistan is the 5th largest producer of Milk. Pakistan is the 9th largest producer of Wheat. It has abundance of Natural Gas and Coal reserves. It has 6th largest labor force.

Dr. Abdul Salam, from a backward region came and won the Nobel Prize. Roshan Khan said once, just the night before playing World Squash Championship final, I was wandering on street because I could not afford the hotel in 1960s. He went on to win that. Jan Sher and Jahangir had record winning streak in Squash for decades. Muhammad Yousuf used to play snooker in street; he then went on to win World Snooker Championship and Asian Snooker Championship. For decades, Pakistan was the power horse in Hockey.

Pakistan won the 1st test match playing only in his 2nd. SRL, ZIM, Bangladesh took years and decades to win their first and become a recognized competitive team. Pakistan started right from the start as if it was playing Cricket since beginning of the game. Coming from nowhere, Pakistan won the 1992 and 2009 world cups. Not many would deny worldwide that these tournaments were the greatest and most enjoyable tournaments in cricket history. So, are those in 1999 and in 2007 ones in which Pakistan was finalist. Presence of Pakistan just adds that bite, the hope, the drama, the excitement, which not only Pakistanis, but the whole world loves.

Dr. Mehbub-ul-Haq invented the Human Development Index in 1981. Pakistan is the only nuclear Muslim state. The lives and struggle of Allama Iqbal and Quaid-e-Azam are being studied in foreign universities. Allama Iqbal has the honor of having every verse of his being quoted by someone! What it is like when everything you write is quoted by someone. WOW.

America also has an unemployment rate of 11% and the biggest trade deficit. We are better than most African and Latin American nations.

All of these are facts. But, we don’t take pride in it and think about things in which we are not good. We still have scholars, passion, ability, harnessing them and being dedicated to the task of achieving our lifetime goals with at least caring a bit for the country, we can achieve a better Pakistan. Everyone is responsible for himself/herself not for everyone else. The least we can do is to be better humans and citizens.

Scars of the heart

Posted: April 11, 2010 in Unsorted

How would it be?

If I were you
And you were me
What you did then
I would now
While you slept I would creep
Slowly you would cry
Then would you scream?
The pain and shame
What would you gain?
Your tears and pleads
Who is it that will hear?
The animal within me
More human am I than you
Who ever possesses me to do
Cares not that you withdrew
I need no consent
Nor need any reason
I do what I want
Because I have the urge to do
The hunger in me strikes
Whenever I smell the young
So young you are
Not touched you are
But that all changes
Tonight you change

Stop! I say
My mind still does not understand
What made u do
What u did then?
So sad I was
So lost I was
You had been my guide
You had been my sight
But all that changes
That night you changed
You had been a father
Now you are a sinner

Courtesy: Farah Mirza

When it comes to getting along with your parents, the single most important word is please. The two most important words are thank you. The three most important words are I love you. The four most important words are How can I help? There is power and magic in each.

Saying please is polite and shows respect. The same goes for thank you. Nothing perturbs parents more than ingratitude. So look for ways to say thank you, whenever you can.

“Thanks Mom. Dinner was yummy.”

“Dad thanks a lot for letting me use the car last night. I had a great time.”

I love you is the next most important phrase. In some homes, hugs and sure love yas (yous) are passed around freely. In others, it’s not so warm and fuzzy. If that’s your lot, try being a cycle breaker and starting a new trend in your home, where you express love and affection in one way or another. It only takes one person to get started.

How can I help? is the next most important phrase. Caution: Make sure your parents are sitting down when you try this out on them because it might give ’em a stroke.

“Mom, I know you’re totally stressed right now. How can I help?”

“Oh, no! Look at the garage. It looks like a tornado hit it,” says your dad.

“How can I help, Dad?” you say back.

~Compiled From: “The 6 Most Important Decisions You’ll Ever Make” – Sean Covey, pp. 135, 136

For some reason, most people find it easier to think in a negative way than in a positive manner. It seems that some effort is needed to think positive thoughts, whereas negative thoughts come easily and uninvited. This has much to do with education and the environment one has been living in.

In order to understand how positive thinking works, and how to use it efficiently, it is important to understand the power of negative thinking.

If you have been brought up in a happy and positive atmosphere, where people value success and self-improvement, then it will be easier for you to think positively and expect success. If you have been brought up under poor or difficult situations, you will probably go on expecting difficulties and failure.

From an early age people let outside influences shape their minds. They view everything through their predominant mental attitude. If their thoughts are positive, that is fine, but if they are negative, their lives and circumstances will probably mirror these thoughts.

If you believe that you are going to fail, you will unconsciously sabotage every opportunity to succeed. If you are afraid of meeting new people or having close relationships, you will do everything to avoid people and relationships, and then complain that you are lonely and nobody loves you.

Do you often think about difficulties, failure and disasters? Do you keep thinking about the negative news you have seen on the TV or read in the newspapers?

Do you see yourself stuck and unable to improve your life or your health? Do you frequently think that you do not deserve happiness or money, or that it is too difficult to get them? If you do, then you will close your mind, see no opportunities, and behave and react in such ways, as to repel people and opportunities. You let the power of negative thinking rule your life.

The mind does not usually judge or examine thoughts and opinions before accepting them. If what it hears, sees and reads is always negative, it accepts this as the standard way of thinking and behavior.

The media constantly bombards the mind with a lot of information about disasters, catastrophes, wars and other negative happenings. This information sinks into the subconscious mind, and let the power of negative thinking grow. By occupying the mind with negative thoughts and expectations one radiate negative energy into the surrounding world, thus creating and recreating more negativity, failures and disasters.

The mind can be directed towards positive thinking or negative thinking. The power of thoughts is a neutral power. The way one thinks determines whether the results are positive and beneficial or negative and harmful. It is the same of energy acting in different ways.

Persistent inner work can change habits of thoughts. You must be willing to put energy and time to avoid negative thinking and pursue positive thinking, in order to change your mental attitude.

Each time you catch yourself thinking a negative thought, change it into a positive one.

If you catch yourself visualizing failure, switch to visualizing success.

If you hear yourself repeating negative words, switch to positive ones.

If you hear yourself saying, “I cannot”, say to yourself, “I can”.

Do you repeat useless and unnecessary negative words and phrases in your mind? Change them to positive ones.

Open your mind to positive attitude, happenings and events. Expect them and think about them, and soon you life will change for the better. Decide that from today, from this very moment, you are leaving negative thinking behind, and starting on the way towards positive thinking and behavior. It is never too late. Soon your life will turn into a fascinating, wonderful journey.