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LOL : a Learner's Ongoing Learning

In every field of endeavor , people from all walks of life are interested in improving themselves and organizing their minds. 


Admittedly, I am a bit biased, trained memory is one of the most important factors in mental organization, there are of course many other factors involved. The search for happiness need not be a long or difficult one, in fact, you can find it within yourself.

Yes- you can be a happier and better person than you are now. Yes- you can use your brain more efficiently, there’s no doubt about it, just make up your mind that its true and and you will be able to use brain power you have , to much better advantage.

There’s only one thing that can help you avoid chaos in your work either business or social dealings- in life itself; and that thing is organization. There would be no learning , no…

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I’m sure you ask yourself the same question all the time. “How do I stay positive, when this world is full of such negative influences”.
Lately we have experienced, natural disasters, increasing poverty levels, unemployment that is at its highest in decades, and people fighting to keep their houses, feed their kids and stay afloat. We are in hard economic times. These facts don’t even include your own personal struggles. Sometimes it’s so easy to jump on the negative band-wagon and go to that place. This is the place of negativity; the place that we find it so easy to go to at times like this. In a world full of so many wrongs, how can you keep your mind focused on what’s right? How can you get through the days of rain to make it to all the days of constant sunlight?

I use many different methods of staying positive. I believe everyone has their own methods of coping or of believing. You don’t necessarily have to believe in God or even in some higher being to have positivity. You just have to believe that there are ways to challenge all of your negative influences and turn them to the positive way you really were meant to live.

The methods I use to stay positive vary depending on how much positive energy I need. I put them in order below as I usually start from the beginning and work my way down the list till I am feeling energized and positive again. See if any of them work for you, you might be pleasantly surprised.

1. Talk to God- One of the first things I find helpful is to simply relax, breathe, find a quiet area outside or in the house to spend a bit of time with God. Some of us don’t realize he hears our every thought and is with us always. Take your problems to him. He might not respond right away but praying about them will help you to release the negative vibe within and you will get an answer. It might not be the answer you want but God always responds. He will direct you on your next step if you take the time to send him your questions.

2. Read a book- this uplifts my spirits because I have a strong connection to what I am reading. Regardless of what book it is, there is a reason I am reading it. Whether it makes me laugh, cry or just lose myself in the moment, reading helps channel the negative into another world. In the midst of reading, the author can take you on a journey far away from the problems of today and also make you think about the fact that maybe, just maybe, your life isn’t that bad. There is always another side to things. Books make you think. Try it sometime even if you aren’t an avid reader.

3. Exercise- exercise releases those positive endorphins that get you moving in the right direction. It is hard to be negative when you are jamming to your favorite tune and running down the street. The breeze and the air from outside will get you going and make you realize all the little things in life that can still make you happy.

4. Talk to a friend- there is a little known fact that friends are the angels God sends us to help us when he is unavailable. A friend has the unique ability to make you laugh. Laugh at yourself, laugh at a memory the two of you have together or just to listen when you need a shoulder to vent to. Friends are priceless. I sometimes say “friends are better than family in some ways because they are the family you chose for yourself on a daily basis” I am a select few friends who I am always able to call and have listen to me when I need a friend. Sometimes friends don’t have to know all the answers or even say a word, sometimes you just need someone to listen to you.

5. Smile at a stranger- this seems silly right? I mean why if you are in a bad place, is smiling at a stranger going to help you. However, showing kindness to someone you don’t know can usually lift you up as well as give them some happiness as well. You never know when someone needs your smile. A stranger at a coffee shop could be having the worst day ever and a simple smile from you could make them realize there might still be good people left in the world. Imagine being the reason that someone held on and had faith in this world again. Now that is something to smile about!

So even though I know times are rough out there and sometimes you can’t find a positive thing to say, try some or all of the above activities. I can almost guarantee you; you will experience at least some relief. Remember half the battle is having a positive attitude about life. If you can conquer this, the negativity will all disappear.

“When you are at the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on” Thomas Jefferson

“Anyone can give up, it’s the easiest thing in the world to do. But to hold it together when everyone else would understand if you fell apart, that’s true strength.” Author Unknown
“Fall down seven times, stand up eight” Japanese Proverb

Courtesy: Debbie A. DeVita

One day I hopped in a taxi and we took off for the airport. We were driving in the right lane when suddenly a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us. My taxi driver slammed on his brakes, skidded, and missed the other car by just inches! The driver of the other car whipped his head around and started yelling at us.

My taxi driver just smiled and waved at the guy. And I mean, he was really friendly. So I asked, ‘Why did you just do that? This guy almost ruined your car and sent us to the hospital!’

This is when my taxi driver taught me what I now call, ‘The Law of the Garbage Truck.’

He explained that many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment. As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it and sometimes they’ll dump it on you. Don’t take it personally. Just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on. Don’t take their garbage and spread it to other people at work, at home, or on the streets.

The bottom line is that successful people do not let garbage trucks take over their day.

Life’s too short to wake up in the morning with regrets, so love the people who treat you right. Pray for the ones who don’t.

Life is 10% what you make it and 90% how you take it.

A mosque goer wrote a letter to the editor of a newspaper and complained that it made no sense to go to mosque every Friday. ‘I’ve gone for 30 years now,’ he wrote, ‘and in that time I have heard something like 3,000 sermons. But for the life of me, I can’t remember a single one of them. So, I think I’m wasting my time and the Imaams are wasting theirs by giving sermons at all.’

This started a real controversy in the ‘Letters to the Editor’ column, much to the delight of the editor. It went on for weeks until someone wrote this clincher:
‘I’ve been married for 37 years now. In that time my wife has cooked some 32,000 meals. But, for the life of me, I cannot recall the entire menu for a single one of those meals, But I do know this… They all nourished me and gave me the strength I needed to do my work. If my wife had not given me these meals, I would be physically dead today. Likewise, if I had not gone to mosque for nourishment, I would be spiritually dead today!’ When you are DOWN to nothing…. Allah is UP to something! Faith sees the invisible, believes the incredible and receives the impossible! Thank Allah for our physical AND our spiritual nourishment!

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I think everyone should read this! ‘When Satan is knocking at your door, simply say, ‘Allah, could you get that for me?’

Can I Borrow $5?

Posted: October 14, 2010 in Mind Sciences, Motivational, Pakistan, World

This could be quite old, but I still feel that we must keep on reminding ourselves on this. I always feel touched with this real story. Here it goes:

Can I Borrow $5?

A man came home from work late, tired and irritated, to find his 5-year old son waiting for him at the door.

SON: ‘Daddy, May I ask you a question?’

DAD: ‘Yeah sure, what it is?’ replied the man.

SON: ‘Daddy, how much do you make an hour?’

DAD: ‘That’s none of your business. Why do you ask such a thing?’ the man said angrily.

SON: ‘I just want to know. Please tell me, how much do you make an hour?’

DAD: ‘If you must know, I make $20 an hour.’

SON: ‘Oh,’ the little boy replied, with his head down.

SON: “Daddy, may I please borrow $5?”

The dad was furious, ‘If the only reason you asked that is so you can borrow some money to buy a silly toy or some other nonsense, then you march yourself straight to your room and go to bed. Think about why you are being so selfish. I don’t work hard everyday for such childish frivolities.’

The little boy quietly went to his room and shut
the door..

The man sat down and started to get even angrier about the little boy’s questions. How dare he ask such questions only to get some money?

After about an hour or so, the man had calmed down, and started to think:

Maybe there was something he really needed to buy with that $5 and he really didn’t ask for money very often. The man went to the door of the little boy’s room and opened the door.

‘Are you asleep, son?’ He asked.

No Daddy, I’m awake,’ replied the boy.

‘I’ve been thinking, maybe I was too hard on you earlier’ said the man. ‘It’s been a long day and I took out my aggravation on you. Here is the $5 you asked for.’

The little boy sat straight up, smiling. ‘Oh, thank you Daddy!’ he yelled. Then, reaching under his pillow he pulled out some crumpled up bills.

The man saw that the boy already had money, started to get angry again.

The little boy slowly counted out his money, and then looked up at his father.
‘Why do you want more money if you already have some?’ the father grumbled.

‘Because I didn’t have enough, but now I do,’ the little boy replied.

‘Daddy, I have $20 now. Can I buy an hour of your time? Please come home early tomorrow.
I would like to have dinner with you.’

The father was crushed. He put his arms around his little son, and he begged for his forgiveness.

It’s just a short reminder to all of us working so hard in life. We should not let time slip through our fingers without having spent some time with those who really matter to us, those close to our hearts. Do remember to share that $20 worth of your time with someone you love.

If we die tomorrow, the company that we are working for could easily replace us in a matter of hours. But the family & friends we leave behind will feel the loss for the rest of their lives.

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Have we ever dragged our own-self to our own court to question what have we done so far for our own people?

Have you ever thought to discover your true purpose in life?

Well, if yes, then how do you discover your real purpose in life? I am not talking about your job, your daily responsibilities, or even your long-term goals. I mean the real reason why you are in this world at all – the very reason you exist.

This post is relevant to all of us, and in broader sense it applies to every human being.

Every day we wake up and we almost follow the same pattern, same routine, same time of leaving for work, or picking up children from school, or going out for something. We have a long day, we do certain things and then we take dinner and then go to bed.

During all this, we pray, we might be cooking, or cleaning or passing instructions, or getting things done. We have a whole list of everyday things to do.

Our life has become routine. Everyone is busy around us. Our phone rings and we sometimes do not feel like taking calls as we already are burdened with a million things going around us. Our friends send us SMS and forwarded emails and sometimes we do not reply back. We rarely have time to meet them.

We have facebook now, so that keeps us connected with those who matter. Those who don’t, remain as add as friend options. Everything is so electronic. We don’t watch TV much unless we have any of our favorite character or show.

Some occasions, some weddings, some events; we may feel like showing up and sometimes we skip some.

We have to keep up with the society. We have to reciprocate and we have to say “thank you” when someone does something for us.

We are answerable to everyone around us. Even if sometimes we don’t want to.

The load-shedding or daily power cut offs bother us. It disturbs our sleep. It makes us irritated during day. The weather is so dry and warm that by the time we reach one place from another, we are already tired.

What’s all this nonsense on TV?

Everywhere we go; same topics, same issues, same fears, some worries. No one seems to have a solution, but to crib and cry over the past and present. What is going to happen, we don’t know.

We see the same people on TV, with the same words, same suggestions, yet we see NO difference being made but things are becoming worse and even worse. By the time we realize there is a problem, it already becomes a major disaster and people have no option but to find safe havens.

Could you imagine a place like Islamabad – so safe so serene, would have bombings inside Marriott Hotel? Could you imagine Karachi being thrashed? Could you imagine Lahore the city of life becoming a city of bloodshed?

What is the reason behind all this?

Why so much hate and violence, taking lives of innocent people?

There has to be so much more behind all this.

Come on… Pakistan is becoming Shaheedistan.

My God! look at the inflation. Look at the price hikes in basic commodities. Look how basic living rights are being taken by cutting off electricity.

Wages? How can a mere salary of $60-70 i.e. 5000 to 6000 Rupees a month fulfills the needs of 5-6 family members with toddlers and infants who need milk every day? Then who complains that these maids should not be trusted alone at homes?

How can we as individuals bring some support to these people who work for us?

Forget thinking about your own-self for a moment. Think about the driver who works with you all day. Drives in heat, sweats and doesn’t say “NO” to you.

Why are we humans becoming blood suckers?

How loyally would someone wash our clothes and cook us meals and safeguard us when they are deprived of so much more back home. They leave their families at their villages to come to cities to work with us. All for few 5 – 6 – 7 – 8 – 9 thousand bucks?

Could we live in this amount every month? We must only see our monthly mobile phone and internet bills. Doing what?

We must discover our true purpose in life and realize the responsibility to our own people first.

The lady, who cleans our bathroom or irons our clothes, smiles and gives us respect. How often do we think of giving her extra money quietly and helping her out of a troubled situation with no other family member working, and kids crying from illness? No money for hospitalization or immunization.

How often do we say “thank you” to our cook or appreciate verbally for making us tasty and delicious food?

How often would we ask our driver to come, take the back seat, and we drive in his replacement?

Why would we? Because they are paid for it? Is this the approach we have?

Arrogant, rude, mean, inhumane???

Come on!!! What if we were them?

Now tell me, what extra miles are we going to keep ALLAH satisfied with our own being?

Are we helping the nearby mosque, hospital or any charitable organization?

Are we feeding some poor on our own?

Are we distributing our old clothes in the nearby orphanage?

Are we giving free medicines to the needy and deserving people living in the nearest katchi abaadi?

Are we attending any welfare organizations events?

Are we giving any rewards to our home staff or employees, apart from their basic salary or annual bonuses?

ALLAH SAYS, if you take care of my people, I will take care of you.

ALLAH SAYS, the dearest to me is the one nearest to His people in times of their needs.

ALLAH also says, I am not going to punish you for your small bad deeds. I will forgive you till you totally exceed your last limits of being arrogant. I will take everything away from you at once and then you will not have any other means.

ALLAH says, you offer salaat / prayers for your own-self to please me and not for anyone else.

ALLAH says, every time you feed a poor, I would increase your wealth by 7 times.

ALLAH says, every time you smile at a poor person, I will give you long life.

So in Islam, there is a bigger reward for every little deed done on earth.

I want my friends to try to become a little “nicer” with their surroundings, and not get carried away in their home-day to day – or glitz.

When we become sick or critically ill, we think of our mother, then our best friends as we need them around us.

This life is very short lived and temporary.

Please I urge you to become kind. Become nice. Become polite.

That’s all I have to say. I just felt like writing today.

Thanks for reading.

With loads of love and prayers!

My special thanks to KHM!

Do you have a habit of taking action?

If so, then GREAT!

This affirmation is already totally true for you!

If not, then the way to develop it begins with affirming
and imagining it to already be true.

The habit of taking action is a “MOST EXCELLENT” habit to have!

Having a habit of taking action, can totally change your life
for the better.

“Please affirm this image of yourself today & all this week.

And REAP The Benefits Tomorrow & for the rest of your life!”